3 Reasons More Women are Looking at Porn

October 2, 2014 Written by  Cecilia Warr

Over and over again we have been told that Pornography and Masturbation are primarily GUY problems. 

Part of that comes from the sexual double standard given in society, the one that tells guys to “play the field” and “get as many notches in your belt as possible” and tells girls to “stay a virgin for your husband” and “be a good and pure woman.” 

Girls who have struggled in the past with these kinds of sexual sins were quiet about their fight. Because this was a "guy problem," there was no where for girls to turn or find help. 

FINALLY this is beginning to change. Women are coming forward with their testimonies and helping abolish these sexual sins. Here are three reasons why more women are looking at pornography:

1. Sex Education

Even though our society is hyper-sexualized, most young adults have a very skewed education in sex itself. For many of us, the topic was simply not discussed at home, or, if discussed, it was done so awkwardly and never brought up again. 

For me, I was handed a few pamphlets and told to ask my mother if I had any questions. 

Instead of asking her one of the seven jillion questions that had come from the O so helpful pamphlets, I went to my good friend Google and started researching. What I found was a lot more than research, and addiction soon followed.

2. Lack of Intimacy

In spite of the fact that our world is more connected than ever before, with our social media crazed society, our Facebook updates and lovely filtered Instagram photos, we are the loneliest society in history. 

According to a study of face-to-face interviews, “more than a quarter of [people]—one in four—said that they have no one with whom they can talk about their personal troubles or triumphs. If family members are not counted, the number doubles to more than half of Americans who have no one outside their immediate family with whom they can share confidences.” 

We as human beings are made for community! We long for personal relationships. When those aren’t present, we search for intimacy in other places. Some girls will seek out porn to fill that hole, and fantasize about not feeling so alone.

3. Self Medication

Life is hard. 

It's hard no matter what your state of life. As a college student, I constantly am trying to juggle school, friends, clubs, a social life, a boyfriend, and most importantly a healthy relationship with God. 

Currently my days begin at 8am and rarely end before 9pm. It was no different a few years ago. There was so much pressure, all the time. So I used porn and masturbation to fend off some of that pressure. It relaxed me. 

Scientists have shown that there is a “neurochemical cocktail” that occurs when porn is used. There are hormones that are released that relax the body. I went running for that relaxation and many other girls do too.

What Do You Think?

What do you think of these reasons? Do you agree? Do you have any to add? I look forward to reading your comments

(used with permission from theporneffect.com)


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Cecilia Warr

Cecilia Warr is a college student passionate about fashion, literature, baking, and most importantly Our Lord Jesus Christ and His saving love. She is committed to helping abolish pornography and to help women overcome sexual addictions. You can contact her at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. for prayers or advice.

2 comments

  • Comment Link Liz Monday, 16 February 2015 06:23 posted by Liz

    These are so true...I know they are true for me. It's an addiction, it's bad, and it hurts when you're done. It doesn't help at all, it doesn't fill that gap. Don't start doing it, it's bad.

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  • Comment Link Lauren Wednesday, 17 December 2014 08:16 posted by Lauren

    I think sometimes, there's no real cut and dry reason. It just becomes an addiction because it feels good. The addiction can start at a young age (with all the technology we have, and sex on tv) before the realization of what is actually happening. In our world today, it is easy for a young person to hide this addiction, even if there is someone there watching over them. It isn't until much later on in life that they are left to filter through the shame and weight of this addiction and seek recovery. It can be a lifelong battle...

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